Relationship Conflict Resolution

Relationship Conflict Resolution

When used correctly, a few simple conflict resolution skills can make a tremendous difference in the quality of a relationship. The Relationship Conflict Resolution describes a few of these skills in an easy-to-follow manner.

We love these techniques because some of them are so simple, but they still carry such an impact. Sometimes, the realization that deep conversations right before dinner are a bad idea. Everyone is hungry and grumpy!

The skills discussed in this include: focusing on the problem (not the person), using reflective listening, “I” statements, using time-outs, and working toward a resolution.


This is all information I got from TherapistAid.com. I use these guides and wanted to share them on my page for others to use. I hope you guys find these as helpful as I do.

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Focus on the problem, not the person. When a disagreement turns to personal insults, raised voices, or mocking tones, the conversation is no longer productive. Be careful to focus on the problem without placing blame on your partner. If a disagreement becomes personal, you should pause the conversation.

Use reflective listening. Oftentimes during arguments, we focus on getting our own point across rather than listening to our partner. Before responding to your partner, restate what they have said to you in your own words. Continue this process until your partner agrees that you understand. Next, share your side. Your partner should reflect back your ideas in their own words until they too understand. Using this technique will help both individuals feel listened to and understood, even if you disagree.

Use “I” statements. When sharing a concern, begin your sentence with “I”. For example: “I feel hurt when you don’t tell me you’ll be late”. With this sentence format, we show that we are taking responsibility for our own emotion rather than blaming our partner. The alternative sentence—“You never tell me when you’re going to be late”—will often cause a partner to become defensive.

Know when to take a time-out. When you and your partner are becoming argumentative, insulting, or aggressive, it’s a good idea to take a time-out. Have a plan in place so you or your partner can call for a break when needed. Spend some time doing something alone that you find relaxing. When you’ve both calmed down, you and your partner can return to solving the problem. Be sure that you do return—it isn’t a good idea to leave these issues unaddressed.

Work toward a resolution. Disagreement is a normal part of a relationship. If it becomes clear that you and your partner will not agree, focus on a resolution instead. Try to find a compromise that benefits both individuals. Ask yourself if this disagreement really matters to your relationship, and let yourself move on if not.

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peace & light,
CHV

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